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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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CK2 May 2021 9:23pm, 29 May 2021 841 posts	0 CK2 That sounds like a nightmare Rosehip! I count our blessings that we’ve only one authority and he’s not (hopefully) in end of life care.
Lip Gloss May 2021 9:24pm, 29 May 2021 51,808 posts	0 Lip Gloss We are probably going to face similar as we want to take from England to Scotland
ThorntonRunner May 2021 7:02am, 30 May 2021 4,950 posts	0 ThorntonRunner Had to pop over to my parents at 11pm last night to pick my dad up off the floor . This is happening every couple of months when his knees give way - often when manoeuvring himself from Zimmer to washbasin or toilet in the bathroom. At 92 he is thoroughly fed up of life and his physical frailty, and mum at 96 is exhausted by her concern for him
LindsD May 2021 7:34am, 30 May 2021 47,358 posts	0 LindsD That's tough TR.
Lip Gloss May 2021 7:49am, 30 May 2021 51,817 posts	0 Lip Gloss Oh that is tough TR
Diogenes May 2021 8:47am, 30 May 2021 60,207 posts	0 Diogenes That’s a terrible situation for you all, TR.
Little Miss Happy May 2021 2:39pm, 30 May 2021 4,581 posts	0 Little Miss Happy That's very hard TR. Have the falls team been out to see him?
CK2 May 2021 5:37pm, 30 May 2021 842 posts	0 CK2 I feel for you TR - that is so tough, both the physical risks and their exhaustion.
ThorntonRunner May 2021 5:53pm, 30 May 2021 4,952 posts	0 ThorntonRunner LMH - I'm not sure: certainly his gp has been involved and it was followed up last year when he was in hospital for a few days with heart issues. I'll ask the question. Both mum and dad are mentally fully with it, so I've tended to take a watching brief and be led by them rather than getting involved in the detail myself
Little Miss Happy May 2021 6:47pm, 30 May 2021 4,582 posts	0 Little Miss Happy They may not know what help is available though TR or believe that they won’t qualify or that the involvement of services will lead to consequences they don’t want.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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