Autism

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jelly 24 Mar 11:20am, 24 Mar 2024 6,393 posts	0 jelly I am just a bit of a skinflint unless it’s something I really want. Yesterday I had to walk away from the most perfect bra as I couldn’t justify £40 for it! Now I need to scour Vinted for something similar!
Fragile Do Not Bend 24 Mar 10:17pm, 24 Mar 2024 12,036 posts	0 Fragile Do Not Bend I am just a bit of a skinflint unless it’s something I really want. Yesterday I had to walk away from the most perfect bra as I couldn’t justify £40 for it! Now I need to scour Vinted for something similar! I can empathise with that. I’m fortunate to not be short of money but I feel I have to justify spending to myself! Is it good value? Will I get good use out of it?
jelly 26 Mar 6:34am, 26 Mar 2024 6,395 posts	0 jelly Sometimes I think I’m ’well Mental’ (technical term) Just been looking at Instagram and came across a video of goodbye messages from other radio 2 djs to Claudia winkelman which has made me cry. Thing is I don’t even like her Saturday morning show. This reminds me of when a teacher was leaving from my son’s school and when kids would come out sobbing it would make me cry! Why am I such a sap?
RunnyBunny 26 Mar 8:22am, 26 Mar 2024 1,422 posts	0 RunnyBunny jelly I do that too. It's a myth that we aren't empathetic, and a lot of autistic people report this kind of thing when we're able to pick up on others' emotions. Also with crying: apparently, we have an off-on mechanism that once it's on, is hard to turn off, while neurotypical people are supposed to have more of a 'dial' of different levels.
Raemondo 26 Mar 8:29am, 26 Mar 2024 11,659 posts	0 Raemondo I cried at the dentist yesterday. I was fine until the nice lady dentist asked why I hadn't been for so long (about six years 😔), and even though nothing bad happened this time, and she said she thought my teeth were actually pretty good considering how long it was since I'd been there, I kept crying on and off for hours after I'd left. I read somewhere that our sympathetic nervous system can't really distinguish between things happening right now and remembering things that happened ages ago, so it reacts just as strongly to memories as to current events. I'm not entirely sure how scientifically accurate that is, but it feels fairly true.
jelly 26 Mar 8:34am, 26 Mar 2024 6,399 posts	0 jelly That does feel very true Rae! Also I’ve now realised I’m very distracted already today. Not had enough sleep! I need to try and focus somehow! Days like this I scroll forever! I need to get stuff done!
jelly 26 Mar 8:35am, 26 Mar 2024 6,400 posts	0 jelly Thanks runnybunny, yes sometimes when I start crying about one thing all the other tears just keep coming!
jelly 26 Mar 8:40am, 26 Mar 2024 6,401 posts	0 jelly Songs that make me cry #1- I dreamed a Dream
halfpint 26 Mar 12:43pm, 26 Mar 2024 41,003 posts	0 halfpint The empathy thing really is a myth. I think for children/YP they might react in a situation when dysregulated and then find it very difficult to ‘accept responsibility’ or apologise later. Stress makes it difficult to process so they might genuinely not fully recall what happened. Shame is also a huge factor - denial is a natural response to shame. Adults interpret this as having no empathy for the person they upset.
Flatlander 5 Apr 8:37am, 5 Apr 2024 3,180 posts	0 Flatlander Apparently it is Autism Acceptance Month, and a local school for autistic children is holding an event to "celebrate autism and how collaboration can build a more accepting and understanding world for autistic children". "Open to professionals in education, business, families, and the entire autistic community. Come together to celebrate the unique strengths of the autistic mind and the beauty of neurodiversity. Gain valuable insights into understanding autism better and learn simple adaptations to support mental health and well-being." "During the event, you will hear from autistic voices, healthcare and education professionals, the emergency services and more on the following topics: • Girls and autism • Combatting mental health and loneliness • Cambridgeshire as a partner: access support and resources • Therapeutically thinking and the behaviour curriculum • Demystifying the police: support for the autistic person • Careers for the autistic person in the police force • Creating inclusive spaces The event will take place between 10:00am and 4:00pm" I am not sure how geared towards autistic attendees, especially adult ones, this will be; my first impression is that it is directed more towards those who interact with autistic children. I'm hesitant about attending - 6 hours is a long time to be talked to, will there be an opportunity to ask questions or challenge what is said, or will it be professionals telling autistic people what they are doing for them? Plus, by attending, I would be outing myself to local people, which I would be uneasy doing so.