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The Retirement Thread

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Velociraptor
Velociraptor
Aug 2023
12:58pm, 22 Aug 2023
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My parents paid for my first wedding (with a small contribution from my in-laws, and I bought a few things). It was a full-meringue affair, and it was definitely Mum's big day. She declared herself upset when I wanted to fling my bouquet to an unmarried pal, because in our family it was traditional for the bride to choose to present the bouquet to her mother to thank her for everything she had done. I hadn't heard of this alleged tradition before then. I was allowed to give my unmarried pal a smaller flower arrangement instead. It didn't work, she died young and single.
3M
3M
Aug 2023
1:07pm, 22 Aug 2023
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Mrs3M's "thank you bouquet" after our daughter's wedding was a small arrangement in a small vase, for we were going away in the caravan immediately after! They made good when we got home, and after their honeymoon!

Yes, paying for a big chunk of the wedding meant their house deposit remained intact, and helped multiply up their affordability a bit as a result.

I might have said "I'm only paying for one of these" - but not in earshot of the happy couple!
Ness
Ness
Aug 2023
1:22pm, 22 Aug 2023
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Mum was planning on giving us a significant amount towards the wedding but in the end gave us the money early to use as part of the deposit to buy our first house. We then paid for the wedding but, obviously, could only do that because of the money she'd already given us so she did pay in effect. Just early. Oh and she paid for my wedding dress. I probably wouldn't have bothered otherwise. It looked pretty on the day and was given to the cancer research charity shop some years after so hopefully someone else had a nice wedding day in it too.

My sister got married 4 years before me, when my dad was still alive and that was a far more extravagant affair. At least double the cost of mine! Her marriage didn't last,
Ally-C
Ally-C
Aug 2023
1:36pm, 22 Aug 2023
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Iirc my in laws paid for the wedding meal at an expensive restaurant for our small wedding. My parents contributed not a lot. We paid for most of it.
Hanneke
Hanneke
Aug 2023
1:39pm, 22 Aug 2023
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We didn't have a wedding. We could not afford it.
My now ex hb had been married before and it was expensive!
He got married again after me. On both these occasions the wives paid.
Velociraptor
Velociraptor
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1:47pm, 22 Aug 2023
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My oldest daughter got married at a lakeside on another continent with a couple of witnesses then had a party at home. It was allegedly a marriage of convenience. Coming up to seven years now luck I suspect Tink might be looking for a fancy wedding when the time comes.
HellsBells
HellsBells
Aug 2023
1:49pm, 22 Aug 2023
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Our son’s wedding is in less than 3 weeks :-0 We have had nothing to do with the arrangements and have given them a chunk of money. We’ve told them to spend it on the wedding, or the honeymoon or we’d be delighted if they saved it for something more important. My stock phrase at the moment is “it’s the marriage that’s important, work on that, the wedding is just a party”
We paid for all our own wedding 31 years ago - we were both in well paid jobs and all our parents were retired, any other arrangement would just have been wrong
Johnny Blaze
Johnny Blaze
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2:11pm, 22 Aug 2023
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No way would I pay for my kids’ wedding! If they wanted some sticks of furniture I’d be okay with that.

Weddings seem to me to be an outrageous waste of cash these days and yes I am a boring old fart (Swindon Registry Office, 4 day honeymoon).
Johnny Blaze
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Swinton, not Swindon. Gah.
Johnny Blaze
Johnny Blaze
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2:14pm, 22 Aug 2023
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“2022 was the year of the Corona Comeback. The lifting of pandemic restrictions saw the highest wedding spend ever! Average wedding spend grew by 15% to an all-time high, rising by £2,500 year-on-year to £19,184 (£24,069 including the ring and honeymoon).“

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