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Giving up sex?

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Johnny Blaze Feb 2013 1:39pm, 28 Feb 2013 17,181 posts	Quote Pin Johnny Blaze I'm not having erectile problems!
Johnny Blaze Feb 2013 1:39pm, 28 Feb 2013 17,182 posts	Quote Pin Johnny Blaze YES!
JenL Feb 2013 1:39pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,062 posts	Quote Pin JenL I think the solution is something like recognising that you feel hurt and upset but acknowledging that hurt and upset alone don't entitle you to anything so if you want to preserve the relationship you have to both try to find a solution
Velociraptor Feb 2013 1:40pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,257 posts	Quote Pin Velociraptor If I were a chap with medical problems which are well known to make it difficult to rise to the occasion and my wife, whom I thought knew me well after all these years, pitched straight in with, "You need to see a counsellor," I would be quite wounded by the implication that she thought it was a psychological problem. "Shall we go and talk to the GP about this?" would, on the other hand, be a reasonable suggestion, and if he refused to do that, well, give him a day or two to let the idea sink in and he'll come round to it.
runner duck Feb 2013 1:40pm, 28 Feb 2013 10,295 posts	Quote Pin runner duck i said exactly that a few pages back, caterpillar! i'd be very hurt and upset (i am a female duck, btw!)
Johnny Blaze Feb 2013 1:40pm, 28 Feb 2013 17,183 posts	Quote Pin Johnny Blaze I always say there are 5 secrets to a good relationship 1 you have a very high opinion of each other 2 communication 3 give and take 4 the occasional reverse cowgirl 5 erm, that's it
runner duck Feb 2013 1:41pm, 28 Feb 2013 10,296 posts	Quote Pin runner duck ooh, sorry just realised, i wasn't talking about physical problems tho! just unilateral withdrawal.
Caterpillar Feb 2013 1:41pm, 28 Feb 2013 7,544 posts	Quote Pin Caterpillar Well yes to having sex with the other person because you fancy them. When they refuse you this must mean they don't fancy you, right? So that is when we get the whole story about "no it's not that. It's just that I really wish you would empty the dishwasher without having to be asked," sort of stuff. And round we go again - emptying the dishwasher and then being told that you should not expect some sort of sexual reward for it. Actually I never did expect any reward. We started at the point of sex being withheld. The explanation for that behaviour made no sense to any man, but there we go.
JenL Feb 2013 1:42pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,063 posts	Quote Pin JenL Withdrawal isn't that reliable, RD - unilateral or not. And don't you let that Pope tell you any different
Johnny Blaze Feb 2013 1:43pm, 28 Feb 2013 17,184 posts	Quote Pin Johnny Blaze Is "emptying the dishwasher" a euphemism for "giving me an orgasm"? I think we should be told.