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Giving up sex?

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Caterpillar Feb 2013 1:16pm, 28 Feb 2013 7,542 posts	Quote Pin Caterpillar So now I am utterly confused. I know I am a man so this is not a surprise. But if rumpy (as JB terms it) is unilaterally withdrawn, and a discussion ensues along the lines of "how are you feeling, because I am worried that you do not seem to loving as you used you ..." And you end up with this massive great wish list that seems (to a mere man) to have absolutely NOTHING whatever to to do with rumpy, but even after hearing it and responding in the right way - as she has asked - she is still not as loving as she used to be. Then is the great long list of changes in you that she expects just some smoke screen for the fact that she doesn't love you no matter what you do, or just doesn't like being touched, or something else? Someone please explain this to me because I really do not understand women at all.
JenL Feb 2013 1:17pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,054 posts	Quote Pin JenL I think everything we do is political at some level but that politics needn't be adversarial. Every relationship is a delicate balance of needs. wants and obligations.
Stander Feb 2013 1:22pm, 28 Feb 2013 12,391 posts	Quote Pin Stander Yeah, she wants and we are obligated to provide it.
JenL Feb 2013 1:24pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,055 posts	Quote Pin JenL We aren't alll the same Caterpillar so you'd have to ask those questions of your wife
Velociraptor Feb 2013 1:25pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,256 posts	Quote Pin Velociraptor So, like, has that list thing with the flowers and the washing floors and the giving her a peck on the cheek instead of a boot up the arse as she heads off to work actually happened to some bloke somewhere? I'm confoodled now. And if I was presented with a load of conditions I'd have to fulfil before being allowed to have sex with my spouse, I'd be in a solicitor's office quicker than you could say "unreasonable behaviour".
JenL Feb 2013 1:25pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,056 posts	Quote Pin JenL Is that really what you think of women, Stander? That's a great shame.
JenL Feb 2013 1:27pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,057 posts	Quote Pin JenL So would I, V. Ditto if I were presented with a list of "conditions I have now fulfilled" and an instruction to have sex in return for them.
Stander Feb 2013 1:28pm, 28 Feb 2013 12,392 posts	Quote Pin Stander No smiley Jen but I figured everyone would get the joke.
fleecy Feb 2013 1:29pm, 28 Feb 2013 7,413 posts	Quote Pin fleecy Caterpillar: if anyone in a relationship gave out a list of demands to be met before sex could ensue then that's all a bit wrong. However, a bit of general courtesy and consideration for the other person would probably go a long way towards feeling more generally inclined in that direction I reckon.
JenL Feb 2013 1:29pm, 28 Feb 2013 24,058 posts	Quote Pin JenL I don't know you so thougt it best to ask.