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The Retirement Thread

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GimmeMedals
GimmeMedals
May 2022
6:40pm, 13 May 2022
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Ditto Mandy. We have a comfortable life on a significantly reduced income. But I'd go without the luxuries (holidays and meals out etc) if I needed to to not have all the stress I had at work.

If you are that unhappy, LG, you need to leave as soon as you can.
Ness
Ness
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6:42pm, 13 May 2022
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Absolutely what they said, LG. (())
Velociraptor
Velociraptor
May 2022
6:44pm, 13 May 2022
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I'm hoping the irrational fear of destitution will go away eventually.
Ness
Ness
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6:52pm, 13 May 2022
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Hope so, Vrap. I had that for the first few months after I left teaching, even though I knew Mr Ness and I had savings that would fill the gap until my teaching pension kicked in.
Johnny Blaze
Johnny Blaze
May 2022
6:59pm, 13 May 2022
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Speaking personally, I think after retirement a person's psyche and character changes because the damagin influence of work is no longer present. I think you are more likely to become your authentic self without the distorting effects of commerce, targets and responsibilities. I approve of this.
Northern Exile
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May 2022
7:08pm, 13 May 2022
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Absolutely right.
Velociraptor
Velociraptor
May 2022
7:21pm, 13 May 2022
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Not sure I want to meet my authentic self. I went straight from being a little shit of a teenager into 40-odd years of working under pressure.
TROSaracen
TROSaracen
May 2022
7:24pm, 13 May 2022
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JB is right. Another thing is that with a busy, stressful, full time working life you really NEED that holiday, that meal and night out with too much alcohol to de stress, escape and counterbalance the suffering. You need that nice car that somehow says ‘it’s worth it’ (even if temporary).

Even semi retired I’ve found my need for these things waning. I’d like them, but have much better perspective of their value (and I’m only semi retired but have taken out 95% of work related stress).
Lip Gloss
Lip Gloss
May 2022
7:25pm, 13 May 2022
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Although since my son was born 34 years ago I’ve worked part time I’ve never stopped working so think 41 years is pretty good going .
Northern Exile
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7:34pm, 13 May 2022
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Some wise words here. I agree with TRO, the need for "things" massively reduces when you retire. I was absolutely set on getting a Porsche when I retired, even though I'd already had the mid-life crisis and a couple of unpractical (two seater) sports cars. I very soon changed my priorities and actually gave my car to my son - I don't miss it at all.

In retirement it's much more important to focus on living what life you have left.

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Schnecke (end of school term 07.23)
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