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Feb 2012
8:38am, 24 Feb 2012
503 posts
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Mandymoo
Mulbs we went through hell with our daughter when she was 14/15 to the extent that I was begging social services to take her away and was on first name terms with the local police. One thing we made sure of was that it did not effect our marriage, so agree with SW 100% on that one, and our daughter never ever saw us disagree over her. If we didnt agree on something it was discussed behind closed doors so she had no idea - as far as she was concerned we were 100% united on how we dealt with her. 10 years down the line I will just say that I cannot imagine being closer to my daughter, she is a lovely young lady and a brilliant Mum and she is so ashamed of what she put us through.
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Feb 2012
10:02am, 24 Feb 2012
27,064 posts
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Toks
Awww that is lovely Mandy, the key is staying united in the discipline aspects and that can be a challenge for us, mr toks gives in easily to the girls whereas I am tough but it is not going to work if we are not united 
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Feb 2012
10:08am, 24 Feb 2012
1,778 posts
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Clueless
One of my sons is a bit 'lively' in lessons and gets into trouble from time to time. Deep down I think he knows that he is doing wrong but cant seem to shake the devil off his shoulder.
Anyway, he was telling me last night how he was dreading his maths lesson, today, because his teacher hates him. (probably for hate read 'does not tolerate his behaviour!') We had a long chat about how he should conduct himself in his lesson today. I thought it would fall on deaf ears TBH. anyway, I dropped him off today and reminded him what we had said about maths last night.
He just rang to tell me that he had a fab lesson, the teacher was delighted with him and he aced his maths paper that they had been given in the lesson. And he felt proud of himself.
And yes, a wonderful moment like that where he does well in class and feels moved to tell me about it is such a rare event but gives me hope. Usually when ever the phone goes about him my stomach sinks and my heart is not far behind.
Which just reminds me that, while they are hateful at times, probably deep down they are all tiny little frightened or challenged humans and as long as we do not loose sight of that, (which I frequently do) we are in with a chance of getting through this.
The positive posts from those who have got through the other side do give me some reassurance that it will pass.
Just wish I had some decent tits I could stick out Sarah Woo
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Feb 2012
10:56am, 24 Feb 2012
7,471 posts
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runner duck
that's lovely, clueless
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Feb 2012
11:02am, 24 Feb 2012
504 posts
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Mandymoo
What a great result Clueless and so good he was proud and wanted to tell you too.
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Feb 2012
11:03am, 24 Feb 2012
5,170 posts
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mulbs
Yay cheery teen news *grasps sliver of hope*
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Feb 2012
3:08pm, 24 Feb 2012
1,779 posts
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Clueless
Well it was short lived
Just had head of year on the phone :(:(
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Feb 2012
3:36pm, 24 Feb 2012
5,173 posts
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mulbs
oh (())
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Feb 2012
5:59pm, 26 Feb 2012
7,476 posts
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runner duck
oh no clueless it is still something he can build on, tho, hold on to that xx
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Feb 2012
1:58pm, 28 Feb 2012
5,194 posts
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mulbs
question folks: what would be reasonable of me to expect in terms of respecting the rules of the house etc.? and what have I not got a snowball's chance in hell of?
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