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Feb 2013
11:32am, 28 Feb 2013
1,680 posts
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Wobbling
Yes, you can have that one V'rap.
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Feb 2013
11:36am, 28 Feb 2013
7,530 posts
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Caterpillar
You see, this is the thing. Men are thinking "we have a bit of peace and quiet. Wouldn't it be lovely to have an early night and have some fun upstairs," and women are thinking "I am still seething that he used the expression 'conjugal rights,' didn't remove the hair from the shower last week, and didn't ask me if I had a nice day at work yesterday evening, so there is no way I am agreeing to any bedroom fun."
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Feb 2013
11:39am, 28 Feb 2013
24,252 posts
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Velociraptor
Or, more likely, women are thinking, "There must be something wrong with me, not wanting sex. No wonder he has to keep hitting me. I'd better go and see the doctor and ask for something for my hormones."
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Feb 2013
11:40am, 28 Feb 2013
17,168 posts
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Johnny Blaze
Sexual politics and entrenched positions in a relationship - don't you just love it.
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Feb 2013
11:41am, 28 Feb 2013
1,681 posts
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Wobbling
it's not like that Caterpillar. Speaking from my own experience, I don't withdraw sex as punishment for something the chap has / hasn't said or done etc. It's more down to how I'm feeling; anyone can upset me enough to make sex not happen; be it husband, mother, boss, postman etc. It boils down to sex not being purely a physical desire for women, there's a lot of emotion bound up in it.
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Feb 2013
11:41am, 28 Feb 2013
24,046 posts
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JenL
That's only true in a relationship in which sex is seen as something to "give" or "withhold", though. It isn't how I think of it at all. It isn't a commodity. If it were, I'd be expecting to be paid a very good salary, but then I'd have to pay my husband too so neither of us would be any better off unless we took our respective commodity to a different market, and that just sounds like far too much bother.
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Feb 2013
11:42am, 28 Feb 2013
13,760 posts
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DeeGee
Meanwhile, he's thinking "She doesn't want me, there's got to be something wrong with me. I wish she'd tell me what I can do. And if the wife won't sleep with me, nobugger else will, so there's no point even trying. I just have to put up with this."
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Feb 2013
11:42am, 28 Feb 2013
24,047 posts
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JenL
my last message was in reply to Caterpillar's last one 
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Feb 2013
11:42am, 28 Feb 2013
7,531 posts
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Caterpillar
Imagine....
Mrs Caterpillar: "I have had two glasses of Chardonnay and I am feeling very frisky. Take me upstairs and ravish me now!"
Mr Caterpillar: "No."
Mrs Caterpillar: "Why not?"
Mr Caterpillar: "Because you left your shoes on the floor in the entrance hall on Tuesday and I almost fell over them when i came through the front door. Until we get this sort of simple thing up to a reasonable agreed standard there is now way I can be made to feel like doing it. Besides, whatever happened to the gentle art of seduction? 'Ravish me now' indeed? A man needs to be made to feel loved and desirable first. So, no. Not tonight. Tough."
Ha ha ha ha ha ha. It is so tough being a man this kind of thing is utterly alien to our simple minds.
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Feb 2013
11:43am, 28 Feb 2013
12,072 posts
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Meglet
The woman might be thinking 'I'd really like sex but he's watching sport/film and will come to bed late and by then I'll be asleep and I don't know how to ask for it. He'll only turn me down anyway'
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