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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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geordiegirl
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With the way my mam can be now I expect to have challenges should she become more reliant in future. She has a habit of saying I shout at her when I say something she doesn’t want to hear.

I used to be paranoid but plenty of people have said I don’t shout it’s just she doesn’t like what I’m saying.
PaulaMc
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That’s just what C is going through with him mum, GG, but she’s taking it to extremes.
geordiegirl
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It’s hard work and I guess a feeling of helplessness too, our lives do feel busier than when my mam was doing the support for her mam. My mam never worked full time and by time my nana needed extra care my mam worked about 6hrs a week cleaning at the church for some extra spending money.

Hugs to you all who need it.
ThorntonRunner
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MiL fell this morning. We heard of it about 8:30 - sister-i-l and her OH were on the way to potentially help her up. Mrs TR went over as well and by midday MiL was in an ambulance with Mrs TR and her sister in the way to A&E. A ct scan and other tests later they're still at the hospital waiting for a bed for MiL. I'll learn more when Mrs TR gets home (hopefully before our dental appointment at 9:40 in the morning!)
McGoohan
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Hope it's not too bad TR
Alice the Camel
Alice the Camel
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Although I’m not ready to share details of my dad’s antics, this thread has been very helpful in so much as giving reassurance that his bad behaviour is fairly normal for an elderly man in cognitive decline. Thank you all.
Little Miss Happy
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Hope she's ok TR.
Mandymoo
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Hope she is ok TR
LindsD
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Hope the hospital stay goes well and is short.

Hugs Alice
GimmeMedals
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My dad’s the same, @Alice the Camel 😆

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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