Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.
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30 Jan
9:24pm, 30 Jan 2025
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cackleberry
All change again with Mother-berry! I'd booked time off to help her move into respite Wednesday (yesterday) However, she clearly couldn't wait and on Saturday had a fall of some sort, she was found by the carers. Then, on Sunday I couldn't get through on the phone and when I did I couldn't make myself heard. Informed my brother who lives a lot closer so he went round, got there same time as carers. Mum was incoherent and falling asleep in her dinner. A bit of dithering ensued, trying to call GP then 111 then finally an ambulance was called and off she went to hospital. Long story short, suspected UTI and associated kidney infection. She's had 4 days of IV fluids and antibiotics and 3 meals a day. The upshot of this is, she is much brighter than she has been for a few weeks. Today (Thursday) She's been declared medically sound, but it's clear she cant look after herself properly and her mobility has been further reduced by Saturdays fall. Hopefully, this is temporary. So, now we wait for the hospital social care team to find her a spot in a care home. It's been a stressful few days, mostly cos nobody tells you anything. There is alot of work to do at her house, at some point her freezers gave been unplugged, for example. I have a strong stomach but was nearly sick emptying them out. The lounge floor has secumb to woodworm and part of it isn't safe. She is a borderline hoarder so 4 rooms of the house are full of 'stuff' yet it doesn't feel right touching and moving stuff, cos she's not actually dead yet. |
30 Jan
10:06pm, 30 Jan 2025
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Marchog
Well that's been an exhausting 5 days and it's finally over. My dad passed away this evening. It's sad but it's also a relief after the slow and depressing progress of vascular dementia. It's taking over 25 years since I first noticed the initial signs of decline eventually losing most memory and bodily functions. One bonus was that he always recognised me and my mother. We had him at home until my mother was hospitalised with an UTI when he had to go into temporary respite care. That was mid October for a few weeks, but he never came home again. The care home has been brilliant but a couple of nasty chest infections weakened him and ultimately led to the end. It may seem callous, but I'm glad it's over. My mother has worked herself to exhaustion caring for my dad, now she can have some time for herself. Sleep tight dad. |
30 Jan
10:09pm, 30 Jan 2025
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LipGloss
So sorry for your loss. It’s not callous at all. Xx
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30 Jan
10:10pm, 30 Jan 2025
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macca 53
Sorry for your loss
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30 Jan
10:23pm, 30 Jan 2025
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McGoohan
Sorry for your loss, agree with LG - not callous at all.
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30 Jan
10:23pm, 30 Jan 2025
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McGoohan
@cackleberry - my in laws have a fridge & freezer in the garage. Thinks keep getting spoiled in there because my MiL unplugs them to plug in her paper shredder! She's so paranoid about having her details stolen she shreds *everything*, including anything with an address on and even Christmas cards. She then forgets to plug the freezer back in.
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30 Jan
10:28pm, 30 Jan 2025
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cackleberry
@Marchog sorry for your loss, I can image its a relief. @McGoohan she is always unplugging stuff, usually her phone or the TV. We have no idea how long the freezers have been without power, but it's at least 2 weeks... |
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30 Jan
10:29pm, 30 Jan 2025
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cackleberry
*imagine 🙄 |
30 Jan
10:36pm, 30 Jan 2025
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3M
Sorry to hear of your loss, @Marchog. That sense of relief isn't callous, in fact I suspect it's quite normal. I hope you get some rest, now.
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30 Jan
10:54pm, 30 Jan 2025
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Corrah
Condolences @Marchog.
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