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1 Jan
9:52pm, 1 Jan 2024
11,941 posts
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leaguefreak
If you want it tailored that needs writing in the care plan and you need to review it regularly. Mercifully we only ever had one minor blip and it was easily resolved
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1 Jan
10:03pm, 1 Jan 2024
16,170 posts
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jda
We had our own minor drama with my wife getting a phone call yesterday afternoon from the hospital to say her dad had been in there since the previous day having fallen and probably having an operation (or several) on Tuesday to fix his broken elbow. A bit of a surprise it took 24h to contact her but that's partly his confusion and perhaps also their lack of staff over the weekend. We went to see him today and he's pretty confused and disoriented, not surprisingly, but we were encouraged that the nurse was very clear that they would assess his needs during his recovery and not just dump him out on the street the next day with no support. A very different story to when he fell and hurt his leg a few years back and no-one seemed remotely interested (which was probably because we picked him up ourselves and he never ended up in hospital).
They also mentioned imposing a deprivation of liberty order because he'd been trying to take the bandage off his arm and go home. Makes him sound like he's completely lost touch with reality, which I suppose he has, at times.
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1 Jan
10:08pm, 1 Jan 2024
65,868 posts
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LindsD
That sounds difficult jda
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2 Jan
6:31am, 2 Jan 2024
6,829 posts
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Little Miss Happy
1 Step - sorry that you are having to deal with that all at once. There are lots of private companies that provide care as others have said but you can also just advertise privately and employ someone if you are paying for it yourself. It is all a bit hit and miss though. If you do it through a company then of course all the employment checks/payroll/holiday cover etc should be sorted by them.
jda - they won't have any choice but to DOLS him if he doesn't have capacity. Hopefully this will result in his needs being met without you having to be the bad guys.
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2 Jan
7:31am, 2 Jan 2024
16,171 posts
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jda
Yes I suppose they really ought to have been talking more with my wife (since she has PoA) but we don’t have any complaints about their treatment of him - quite the reverse it’s a relief to know he’s being looked after.
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2 Jan
4:40pm, 2 Jan 2024
16,174 posts
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jda
A day later and no further forward, it seems the appropriate specialist hasn’t been in yet so nothing has happened, FiL is still lying in bed with his arm strapped up. Maybe tomorrow…
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6 Jan
3:53pm, 6 Jan 2024
16,196 posts
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jda
Maybe Monday is now the latest comment from the hospital. FiL still with his arm strapped in a hospital bed, but he was noticeably perkier when we visited a couple of days ago so I presume not in too much discomfort. I'm wondering if this sort of delay is normal or perhaps indicative of some broader reluctance to do anything. He's been in hospital for a full week now and they haven't actually done anything besides strap up his arm and check he's otherwise ok. Anyway, there's nothing we can do but wait and see what happens...
They also didn't seem to understand the on-line PoA validation system, which is surprising as it's been going several years now and is touted as (among other things) making healthcare decisions easier and more efficient! Well, when I say "they" it was just one specific person. But it was the person we were talking to.
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6 Jan
5:02pm, 6 Jan 2024
53,555 posts
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McGoohan
In my experience nothing much happens on a weekend in hospital, jda. Hope they give you some answers on Monday.
They also mentioned imposing a deprivation of liberty order because he'd been trying to take the bandage off his arm and go home. Makes him sound like he's completely lost touch with reality, which I suppose he has, at times.
Sounds very like my MiL too. Getting her to stay in hospital is quite a challenge.
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6 Jan
5:03pm, 6 Jan 2024
53,556 posts
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McGoohan
Speaking of which... minor update here.
MiL is going in for the *first* operation on Tuesday. She has to be at the hospital for 7:30am so Liebling and her sister are going to go on Monday night. Sis will take their mum to the hospital, Liebling will stay and look after their dad. I'm probably going to be there on Tuesday too to offer moral support, though I will be WFHing as well.
This is an investigative procedure to see if she needs operation #2. She won't be allowed to eat anything and the hospital have said they'll try to push her to the front of the queue as much as they can but there is no set time for the op.
My gut feeling is that she will refuse to go on Tuesday morning. If they manage to get her to the hospital she will very likely demand to be taken home before the op happens. She has 'form' in this area.
There was coincidentally another op booked for the same week for the removal of a small skin cancer from her nose but the hospital have now moved that back a couple of months.
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6 Jan
5:22pm, 6 Jan 2024
65,930 posts
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LindsD
It sounds like an absolute 'mare. I'm sorry
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