Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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HappyG(rrr) Oct 2023 10:18pm, 20 Oct 2023 48,197 posts	0 HappyG(rrr) That's really sad and must be v hard for all of family but esp you KSD. Wishing you strength. G
Bazoaxe Oct 2023 6:27am, 21 Oct 2023 25,772 posts	0 Bazoaxe HappyG has said very well what I was thinking. Take care.
Little Miss Happy Oct 2023 6:47am, 21 Oct 2023 6,707 posts	0 Little Miss Happy (((Kaysdee))) You have so much to deal with. Can you access some family therapy or counselling?
CK2 Oct 2023 7:25am, 21 Oct 2023 2,340 posts	0 CK2 So tough! Thinking of you and I like LMH’s suggestion.
LindsD Oct 2023 8:45am, 21 Oct 2023 64,622 posts	0 LindsD I'm sorry kaysdee. Sounds very hard.
jda Oct 2023 8:52am, 21 Oct 2023 15,666 posts	0 jda Sounds horrible kaysdee. I hope you can get enough support to cope.
macca 53 Oct 2023 1:58pm, 21 Oct 2023 31,805 posts	0 macca 53 I wish you strength kaysdee ((()))
Bazoaxe Oct 2023 4:39pm, 21 Oct 2023 25,776 posts	0 Bazoaxe We arrived today to find MiL quite confused. Once we got a coffee and the photo album mrs axe made for her 90th we saw a different person. She was looking at photos from the 1930s onwards and could point out who everyone was and a bit about them. However when she got to the last 25 years or so she was less clear.
CK2 Oct 2023 10:08pm, 22 Oct 2023 2,344 posts	0 CK2 One year since dad’s death and we planted a tree and put his ashes in as we did so. Myself, mum, brother and husband all got involved and were pleased with the outcome. Later I visited his bench with my husband. A moving, exhausting but successful day.
LindsD Oct 2023 11:02pm, 22 Oct 2023 64,648 posts	0 LindsD Well done. Take care x

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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