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Jan 2019
12:58pm, 17 Jan 2019
3,220 posts
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mr d
 larkim
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Jan 2019
10:45pm, 17 Jan 2019
3,442 posts
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decorum
We had a new scout turn up tonight. He's actually come up through our Beavers and then Cubs. So, we were expecting him before too long, just not this week/month/term ...
He went to Cubs, as normal, on Monday and promptly turned round to the leadership team and announced that it was to be his last night with the pack and he'd be going to scouts from now on ~ we usually jiggle and juggle when kids move up based on maturity and try to send them up in at least pairs (so they're not the small fish on their own in a strange new pond ).
Not this lad, he's near fearless. Small for his age but you can bounce him of trees without him taking a front or batting an eye lid (... because I've done it to him ... it was an accident ~ but it's also why I've been looking forward to him coming to scouts for years )
He's also autistic.
He coped well this eve
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Feb 2019
10:42pm, 18 Feb 2019
3,483 posts
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decorum
On Scout camp ... whole troop in attendance, including our 5 asd ... and unless you knew you'd really not know .
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Feb 2019
10:09am, 19 Feb 2019
17,499 posts
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Columba
When I first started working with autistic children (1970-ish), that would not have been possible; the children that got the label at that time were so glaringly "different". Also, hardly anyone had heard of it, even GPs. The incidence was thought to be 1:2,500.
The umbrella has grown a great deal wider since then.
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Feb 2019
11:25pm, 25 Feb 2019
3,486 posts
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decorum
[I'd have sworn that I'd replied the other day ... *confused*]
It has indeed.
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Feb 2019
12:15am, 26 Feb 2019
3,487 posts
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decorum
Looking for a bit of advice ...
The Upshot:
Last week I had a bit of a moment of irk with a parent of a HF ASD lad ... yup, scouting again. The lad in question has completed a team leader badge/award. Now given the challenges these lads and lasses face, we thought his parents would be chuffed to bits and full of praise for and to, him. He got praise and hugs from one parent, the other just banged on about how hard they'd* worked to get him to that point ... and here, thankfully, I managed to not spit feathers of ire!
No praise, no hug, no congratulation ... except for their own self
* Not the family, nor them as a couple, just the 'first person' of they (Mind they're both inclined to say 'My' kids rather than 'Our' on both social media and during face to face conversations ... which is also an irk to me . None of my business, I know )
I should point out that this same parent often quotes that "A Special child needs a Special parent!" #passthebucketIneedtospew
[*hmm* ... should this have gone here, the 'Gear Grind', or the 'WYWTSBC' thread instead????]
#backontrackagain ...
Any advice as to how to deal with this type of parent mentality?
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Feb 2019
8:08am, 26 Feb 2019
27,633 posts
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halfpint
Hmm! In my experience, having a child with SEN/ASN affects parents in a range of ways. We get parents who don’t want their child to ‘stand out’ and so refuse many strategies. At the other end parents who will fight to the ends of the earth for ‘all the support’ even when the child doesn’t need that level of support. Meeting the needs of a child with ASD can become all consuming and it’s common for parents to focus on what they can’t do. Sometimes we just have to accept that we all deal with things differently. Keep giving the kid praise and focus on his strengths and let his parents deal with it in their way.
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Feb 2019
10:36am, 26 Feb 2019
3,488 posts
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decorum
Thanks hp, that's what we've been trying to do. [I know that it's the fair way, but this parent irks me on a constant basis But you're absolutely correct, the parent needs to deal with their life in the best way they can and you hit the nail squarely on it's head - I've long thought this parent to have a strong leaning towards Wendy Syndrome ] [Lots and lots of rant and drivel removed] [Thankfully the other parent has their head screwed on and engages with who their child is and actively encourages individual growth ]
He's a fantastic lad with a cutting wit and a fantastic sense of possibly unintended humour ~ whilst on camp he and his peers all went to the shop ... "Look what I've got!" says one, His response? "Oh look, a handful of diabetes! ...". :*-)
[We also had our lad with cancer turn up and stay over for a night. He wasn't booked to be with us and turned up on spec ... and got a massively happy greeting from his peers ~ because he's lost his hair he's a bit embarrassed and hadn't been to a section meeting for more than a good while. He wasn't supposed to run around ~ yeah, right ... it's a woodland and he's a kid! Nothing stops this kid! His dad stayed too, to administer his meds and to make sure he was okay. And, following the camp? He's come back to wanting to attend his section on a regular basis Both he and his dad are now massive fans of our Young Leader Explorers, who really took him under their collective wing.
Kids are brilliant!]
Sorry for yet another long and blathering, post
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Feb 2019
11:17am, 26 Feb 2019
8,018 posts
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Mandymoo
Thats so lovely re the boy with cancer.
As you say each parent deals with their child in difference ways. My daughter is most certainly one of the ones who wants to be informed and takes all on all and information from where she can and it is sure making a difference to A's issues and how they are dealt with.
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Feb 2019
12:36pm, 26 Feb 2019
27,635 posts
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halfpint
Chortle. That diabetes comment is exactly the kind of thing QP would say. Brutal honesty is a blessing and a curse.
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