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Oct 2018
12:12am, 26 Oct 2018
3,318 posts
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decorum
He's a good'un 
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Oct 2018
6:44am, 26 Oct 2018
7,396 posts
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Mandymoo
That's fab decorum and made me smile
Half term is always an issue for my grandson - anything that changes the routine is.
We are very proud of him as he has had a horrid 18 months, having to change schools alomg with other things but he has settled so well and has just passed the grammar school test.
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Oct 2018
7:46am, 26 Oct 2018
26,730 posts
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halfpint
That is great Mandymoo.
I have had a realisation that I have been measuring success against the wrong yard stick. There is such a tendency to measure yourself against the norm when people on the spectrum are unique and have their own strengths. I've stopped stressing about the yard stick of 'school attendance' and 'formal academic qualifications' and I feel so much better. Instead I'm recognising his real strengths - 20 miles walks in the hills, amazing kayaker, excellent rock climber, strong mountain biker, embracing a leadership role at a primary school, bloody brilliant and empathic with his 4 year old cousin, funny and smart.
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Oct 2018
5:16pm, 26 Oct 2018
3,319 posts
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decorum
Excellent news for Mm's grandson and also for qp.
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Oct 2018
6:47pm, 26 Oct 2018
26,739 posts
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halfpint
My parents spent years saying things like 'why isn't he playing out in the street like the other boys' or buying him football kits. I would like to add that I also stopped measuring myself against the wrong yardstick. The 'being in a relationship' as a measure of success one in particular.
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Oct 2018
8:33pm, 26 Oct 2018
3,320 posts
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decorum
I grew up as the odd one and spent years wondering why the things which mattered so much to my age/year/peer group usually held little to no interest to me. And vice versa
I still really don't understand relationships an interactions; even keeping close friendships are <I>difficult</I> . I'd given up on finding someone, had stopped looking and had sworn off relationships ... and then I met SWMBO, who I've now been with for almost a third of my life (scary thought!). It does happen, sometimes
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Oct 2018
2:23pm, 31 Oct 2018
6,222 posts
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Jono.
I think you've hit the nail on the head there Half pint
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Dec 2018
10:35am, 14 Dec 2018
6,272 posts
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Jono.
Joe has had speech and communication sessions with someone from the NHS, they drive Joe made because the Lady just repeats what she went through before - I understand the method - he has said that she's a dangerous woman and carries a knife.
Joe's been a bit like that recently, coming out with statements about certain teaching staff he may not get on with - however his resolve quickly breaks down after some light questioning and establishment of the fact.
Joe very rarely talks about school, however last night he did report that he also has speech & communication session with one of his teaching assistants.
Last night Joe started to talk about these sessions and repeated his opposition to the report wrote by the NHS lady - the report was strange and didn't' mention Autism at all, which I and Mrs J thought was strange as Autism seems to be the blocking point to most of the things listed - Joe stated that the report was ridiculous and that he 'wasn't disabled'.
'Your right Joe, your not disabled, your Autistic which means you just think differently to the rest of us. But me and mom understand you (okay the last bit was a stretch)'.
Molly J's BF was looking for a Christmas present for Joe, there's a gift box in Asda, it contains a classic coke bottle (joe collects these), a classic coke glass and a bottle opener - ' get that for him Mrs J said'.
Molly J said 'are you sure' - Molly J's BF didn't get it either.
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Dec 2018
11:18am, 14 Dec 2018
3,414 posts
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decorum
I get it, he knows what he likes and he likes it
Last night we had our last crafts night of the year at scouts. We work it that over the years they're with the troop they build up a collection of reasonably easy to complete Christmas craft figures ~ this year we did a sock elf. A sock, a pair of scissors, rice, elastic bands, googly eyes, mini pom-poms, glue gun and something to make the scarf with. Although it's quite simple it tends to test the dexterity of most ... we've a small troop at the moment and we've a few scouts on the spectrum. They all went home with a completed elfen Jabba the tinsel And it's probably the best completions we've had to date ~ more so because the ASD lads listened and made their elf characterful rather than a close copy of the pre made example The allegedly normal then caught on that the example was just an example of what it *could* look like
Last week they made a ginger bread village ~ it was a laugh, the village needed to be finished with to scale figures of a triumphant army! But once they'd caught on that not being perfect was perfectly fine a proper night was had
(It's not always plain sailing mind, but when it isn't it's more often an allegedly normal scout having the hissy fit )
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Dec 2018
12:39pm, 14 Dec 2018
27,118 posts
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halfpint of mulled cider
We are increasingly seeing children who cannot tolerate things not being perfect (not just autistic ones). Having to win, be the best, produce perfect work becomes really problematic. If your children are able to embrace it decorum then you are doing them a great service.
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