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Feb 2022
6:55pm, 6 Feb 2022
14,459 posts
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Fat Dave
HP: you'd think. And I thought I was. But someone I saw the other week ended up quite cross about it.
Which is a pity because we were quite compatible in a lot of ways.
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Feb 2022
6:59pm, 6 Feb 2022
22,325 posts
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Meglet
Dave, you really ARE boyfriend material, you just haven’t found the right girlfriend. And the amount you see each other is just another element of compatibility. ‘Kids come first’ is a pretty good place to start from in a relationship but it does take a bit of navigating.
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Feb 2022
7:07pm, 6 Feb 2022
2,562 posts
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Fields
As an alternative perspective - and not sure of the age of your kid(s) - Unlikely I’d want a relationship with anyone who had non-adult kids. So it may not be personal, more a case of just meeting at the wrong time in life.
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Feb 2022
7:20pm, 6 Feb 2022
14,460 posts
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Fat Dave
No, in fairness I think it was just "Seeing you at least once a week is a non-negotiable"... and if I can't promise even that then maybe I'm not ready for a relationship for the time being.
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Feb 2022
7:22pm, 6 Feb 2022
14,461 posts
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Fat Dave
(Thanks though; as someone who knows what I'm like as a boyfriend, that means a lot x)
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Feb 2022
8:17pm, 6 Feb 2022
85,422 posts
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Hanneke
Another "terminally single" checking in. I prefer to say celibate by choice these days...
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Feb 2022
8:22pm, 6 Feb 2022
85,423 posts
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Hanneke
Fields, we should date 😄😎🤪
My problem is that I also don't see the need to see each other all the time and invariably this becomes a problem. Usually sooner rather than later and after demanding more contact, the controlling usually starts...
My added problem is that I don't do modern means of communication. No social media, no whatsapp etc We have patchy signal around here and I hate having to be "always on" so I only carry my phone with me if/when I need it.
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Feb 2022
8:33pm, 6 Feb 2022
22,326 posts
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Meglet
I’m sure my partner would see me every night but he understands I need some solo time too. Now my kids aren’t at home all the time it’s certainly easier to navigate a relationship.
In some ways it would be easier to live together as when you don’t see someone every day you feel like you have to spend quality time with them and not do the mundane household jobs etc!
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Feb 2022
8:48pm, 6 Feb 2022
2,565 posts
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Fields
Hann lol I think my chief selling point is my non-interest / obsession 
I agree that WhatsApp can be pernicious. I don’t do any other social media. I am trying to cut down a bit from having WhatsApp go off every few minutes and waste hours messaging back and forth. My ex would message me constantly demanding to know where I was which had the effect of making me stay away more.
As for seeing a partner every day - I’m not sure that I can spend more than a few days with even my closest friends and family without wanting to run away to sea! I do like my the privacy and sanctuary of my own home, not sure
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Feb 2022
8:51pm, 6 Feb 2022
2,566 posts
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Fields
Oops submitted too early … not sure I could manage more than a weekend with someone… maybe a weeks holiday?
What all this shows really is that we are all different in what we want from a relationship, which is fine. The key thing for me is that at least I now recognise and acknowledge my differences. When you know what you want you also know what you do not want
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