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The Retirement Thread

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Oct 2024
11:33am, 22 Oct 2024
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Windsor Wool
LOL. You know what, they actually attempted to incentivise me to stay. The must have been gluttons for punishment.

Of course, them trying to make me stay just made me more grumpy as it shows I was being underpaid while there.

Much poorer but happy now. Very happy.
Oct 2024
11:39am, 22 Oct 2024
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geordiegirl
I think I’ve transitioned to that almost final page and becoming more vocal about the shit and being mindful I haven’t got to say it too out loud.

A lot will depend on conversations the next couple of months at work and with IFA, but I’m def less tolerant even if I’m still at the point of taking it personally.

It’s kinda nice to know I’m not alone and it’s a signal it’s time to be free.
Oct 2024
11:45am, 22 Oct 2024
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Johnny Blaze
One of my iron rules when resigning was never to accept a counter offer. I made that mistake once and never made it again.
Oct 2024
12:04pm, 22 Oct 2024
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lammo
Thanks @cathrobinson , hope it works out for you
Oct 2024
12:41pm, 22 Oct 2024
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TheScribbler
I'm 53 in a few weeks' time. Mr S has always said he wants to retire by 60 and recent family ill health has really encouraged us to think about how soon we can go.

We both have jobs with aspects that we don't enjoy. He doesn't like being tied to technology, and I dislike my 2 hour commute 3 days a week, lack of benefits and working for a company that I think is a bit shit, frankly.

So, for the past couple of years I've been very much in the take the money, do an adequate job, keep my head down mentality.

And today I have a job interview... It's with Newcastle Building Society, hybrid working, 2 days in the office (15 mins drive away maximum - bike/run commutable in good weather), better benefits, fewer hours.

But part of me is wondering, do I want this? It feels like the kind of role where I'd have to be much more proactive than I am at the moment, and I definitely don't have that energy in my current role.

I could have done more to prepare - done a better presentation, take more time to put together a portfolio, so I'm feeling a bit of guilt. But equally, I have a lot of experience AND the pay is not exceptional, but the benefits make up for that.

Is this one last throw of the dice - to actually use some of the skills and experience I have to do something that I could learn to care about?

Ultimately it will be about whether I fit, or whether there's someone who is a better fit. They wouldn't be talking to me if they didn't think I could do it.
Oct 2024
12:45pm, 22 Oct 2024
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Flatlander
Despite your reservations, TheScribbler, I hope the interview goes well and it turns out that you are both a good fit for each other.
Oct 2024
12:49pm, 22 Oct 2024
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Sigh
Hope that it works out for you, @TheScribbler .

I bumped into a friend while out running this morning; he was also running :-) . He's currently on garden leave from his most recent job, having given notice due to a toxic atmosphere. He's going to do a couple of days a week freelance, as he doesn't feel ready to completely retire yet, so a mix of drawdown & new income. Basically he still wants to work for a while, but without all the baggage that comes from a full-time position in a corporate firm.
Oct 2024
1:04pm, 22 Oct 2024
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Dave W
A change is as good as a rest.
Oct 2024
1:08pm, 22 Oct 2024
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geordiegirl
In the right role you would have more energy Scribs and I think you have so much more to give you just need the right environment to make it worth your while. So I hope if it’s what is meant for you it comes to you. Good luck and if not this then start looking at your options more seriously
Oct 2024
2:05pm, 22 Oct 2024
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HappyG(rrr)
Good luck with it Scribs. Nationwide building society is a mutual, isn't it? That's A Good Thing (as our resident dinosaur might capitalise it!)

I like changing jobs every few years. Even if it's just as bad, it's differently bad and I can usually motivate myself for 6 months or a year.

Windsor Wool wrote:Once I’d decided that I was going to get out, I had hoped that there would be a period where I could enjoy work a bit more, safe in the knowledge that I wouldn’t be around for too much longer. Things took a different turn though. I was liberated (good) but that just meant that I voiced my frustrations even more loudly than before which in turn wound me up more! I fell out with people, called folks out for talking shit, refused to do valueless tasks, gave folks the feedback they deserved, told the youngsters to quit moaning, all that kind of stuff that should have felt good but it actually just made it all worse for me and everyone else 😂. I think the issue is that when you work for a big company it’s so hard to make change. When I was a part of it I kinda sucked it up. When I wanted to make a positive impact I just got even more frustrated. Don’t be like me if you’re in that final phase! On the train to London to meet an ex-colleague for ‘lunch’. There are some who forgave me 😀.


I've tried telling people my views (being a contractor can be quite liberating!), but if they don't want to hear, then it's just more annoying. So now, I have a real attitude of "You have to ask me, if you want more info. Then I'm going to give you more than you wanted or expected, probably!" :-) G

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