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The Retirement Thread

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EvilPixie
EvilPixie
Mar 2024
12:45pm, 15 Mar 2024
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Sharkie's advice is spot on, live life NOW.

100% I just need Mr Pix to realise this
Sigh
Sigh
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12:48pm, 15 Mar 2024
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Jo & I were walking Willow before lunch, and both agreed that most of the stuff we had to do at work was not in the least bit important, yet it still continues after you've retired, by the next batch of folks.

We were also talking about half a dozen or so good colleagues who sadly died either before retirement or just after.
Sigh
Sigh
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12:49pm, 15 Mar 2024
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ooh, 26,000 posts :-)
EvilPixie
EvilPixie
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nice post count sigh

well said this is exactly the thing - and no good being the richest person in the cemetery because you wanted to save.
I consider my recent experiences as a major health scare and it's had a big impact on my mindset but I don't think Mr Pix has really taken it on board
I think his working in the bad debt department of a bank has also have a very long term effect on him
macca 53
macca 53
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12:56pm, 15 Mar 2024
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…as my mum used to say, “there’s no pockets in shrouds”…
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um
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On a similar note to 'live life now', but slightly more depressing. 3 years ago, my elder brother was, to all visible signs, healthy and active.
Then a few medical issues, then a few more. At Christmas visits, I saw him steadily deteriorate and change from fit and active to old and infirm. Then this Christmas, he looked on his last legs. 3 weeks ago I visited him in a hospice, 2 weeks ago he passed on and his cremation is next week.

He was 2 years older than me.

So the very selfish learning is 'to enjoy life while you can' and especially enjoy fitness while you can. It's a bit mortifying when you're made to realise how quickly it can all change.
EvilPixie
EvilPixie
Mar 2024
12:59pm, 15 Mar 2024
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THAT
(sorry Um)
but that is exactly it - my recent scare really proves this
Bazoaxe
Bazoaxe
Mar 2024
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This might be more for the aged parents thread, or politics, but I was thinking about MiLs position. She has an absolute fear of paying IHT, even although she will not pay any unless the rules change. It used to consume lots of her worrying until her dementia kicked in.

However, she has been in receipt of state pension for nearly 30 years, has carers 4 times a day, has incredible care from her GP, great and regular hospital appts and frequent A&E visits sometimes with extended stays. She also gets paid attendance allowance . She has no double received way more than she ever paid in. On that basis thats where I think IHT could maybe even should be applied more than it does.
HappyG(rrr)
HappyG(rrr)
Mar 2024
1:36pm, 15 Mar 2024
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I'm getting older and my mum is an aged P, like Bazo's above so I am at the end of the spectrum where I'll be taking out more than I've put in. And I would skew it the other way. More money should go to supporting young people to be educated, have a good shot at an enjoyable and useful life, with good human relationships, and not spent keeping old people (like my mum and eventually me!) alive. Imho! Again, poss not one for this thread?! :-) G
Velociraptor
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My dad was muttering about inheritance tax so I suggested that he could set up a regular monthly payment out of his income to each of his grandchildren now to reduce his potential liability. But he's some way off being ready to think about letting any of his assets go in his lifetime. He was furious that my sister and I had to be informed of our right to inherit some of Mum's estate and would probably have regarded us as thieving scoundrels if we hadn't waived our claims.

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