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Feb 2013
7:42am, 27 Feb 2013
2,192 posts
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Pestomum
Ouch Meglet  x
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Feb 2013
7:54am, 27 Feb 2013
12,066 posts
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Meglet
Yeah, there were other issues too, I guess the sex one is how it makes it obvious.
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Feb 2013
8:03am, 27 Feb 2013
5,428 posts
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The Teaboy
Same experience as Meglet. From the other side. Looking back it was a sign it should have been ended sooner.
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Feb 2013
8:20am, 27 Feb 2013
68,502 posts
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santababy
Anj, its not about *just the sex* i dont think. Its about the intimacy you get with your partner too. I couldnt have a relationship like that. I suspect both the men in question will eventually look elsewhere.I'm sure they think at the mo it'll be ok, but i doubt very much it will.
It must be bit of bash to self esteem to know one person feels that way.
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Feb 2013
8:20am, 27 Feb 2013
752 posts
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Fellrunning
I'm assuming that these aren't high profile (ie international standard) athletes here. That beng the case my I have two questions: First what on earth do you think youre doing to your realtionship? Second why do you feel the need to tell everyone else about it as if it were something to be admired?
I'd say if you want to shave a few minutes off your marathon time its better to arrive on the start line in good physcological health than with some warped idea about giving up this or that being good for you. You're a runner not a monk (or nun).
These people, whoever they are, need to get help. There are plenty of people in the world who are unable to have a healthy physical relationship for all sorts of reasons and would desperately want to have one. We were in that position for the first 18 months of our marriage whilst Shel had surgery, and it was very very difficult at times.
Giving up something so precious for the sake of what in the final analysis is a hobby is stupid.
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Feb 2013
8:21am, 27 Feb 2013
68,503 posts
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santababy
FR, as ever is correct
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Feb 2013
8:23am, 27 Feb 2013
13,730 posts
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DeeGee
I don't think it's the athletes who have "ceased-fire", as it were, FR.
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Feb 2013
8:30am, 27 Feb 2013
6,873 posts
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richmac
Think you kinda missed the point FR!
mis matched sex drive is a huge problem in a relationship and will kill it off if the differential is to big. But hey thats great news for the person you meet next
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Feb 2013
8:32am, 27 Feb 2013
13,731 posts
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DeeGee
Now, here's a thing. I have a friend who used to be a totally different bloke, overweight, drunk, chain-smoking, that sort of thing. He took up running because his wife was upset about what her husband had become.
Takes it pretty seriously now. Wife's happy with the whole general health and wellbeing thing. She's still very much in love with her husband. However, either she's tired from looking after the kids when hubby's out, or he's tired from running, or she's in the wrong point in her cycle, or he's away at a race. The opportunity never seems to arise.
And because it's not a major issue for either, they plod on.
It happens. It's not ideal, but it's not the be all and end all.
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Feb 2013
8:36am, 27 Feb 2013
753 posts
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Fellrunning
Clearly I have missed the point, not difficult amongst all the "nudge nudge" comments.
I was under the impression that sex was being forgone as some sort of training aid. I've heard something similar in the past and given the same reaction.
Doesn't change my view that they need to get help though, and there is some very good help available for these sort of problems.
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