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Feb 2013
5:01pm, 27 Feb 2013
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JenL
I think the "if not addressed" part is probably the answer, inasmuch as there can be an answer. In the end, it will come down to competing needs/wants and decisions will have to be made.
There. Sorted 
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Feb 2013
5:03pm, 27 Feb 2013
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Jambomo
Well, I don't think sex is simply an expression of love - I think there is a bit of a drive/need behind it.
I don't think anybody needs to be angry nor withhold/punish someone for not having sex. I think though, that I would want the partner witholding sex to realise that it might put the relationship at risk and consider that enforced celibacy (for life , not just in a short term, don't feel like it scenario) on one partner is not very fair. At the very least I would perhaps look for them to discuss the issue and maybe go to some kind of couples counselling to see if it could be worked out in some way. If they didn't want to do this I would be pretty concerned that they didn't really care about our relationship that much, that an issue that was important to me and had a big impact on me, isn't even worthy of being seriously discussed.
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Feb 2013
5:03pm, 27 Feb 2013
3,648 posts
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Jambomo
oops - work got in the way of posting there!
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Feb 2013
5:03pm, 27 Feb 2013
3,155 posts
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BaronessBL
34 lurkers - looks like we need a RickRoll to the Wednesday lurkathon
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Feb 2013
5:05pm, 27 Feb 2013
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JenL
If it's just a bodily function/drive/whatever though, Jambomo, there's no need to involve another person at all, and certainly not an unwilling one.
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Feb 2013
5:07pm, 27 Feb 2013
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Jambomo
lol Jen, I think there is - er self-satisfaction isn't the same as having sex!
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Feb 2013
5:09pm, 27 Feb 2013
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JenL
No - but if sex isn't available it's a substitute thatgets you what you want/need and harms nobody else.
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Feb 2013
5:13pm, 27 Feb 2013
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Joopsy
Tea is great.
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Feb 2013
5:14pm, 27 Feb 2013
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JenL
And much more acceptable if you're in company or out in public.
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Feb 2013
5:14pm, 27 Feb 2013
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Jambomo
But it isn't the same, i don't think that it is a subsitiute that truly will satisfy you in the long term.
Anyway I have to drop out of this discussion - work beckons again
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