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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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LindsD Jun 2021 6:27pm, 27 Jun 2021 47,976 posts	0 LindsD I'm at my Mum's. I decided to come because she was going on about not having seen us and I don't want her to visit for various reasons. I'm not sure it was a good idea. I'm not feeling mentally very well and I've already had red mist with her over her constant worries about subsidence. She says I look tired.
CK2 Jun 2021 6:43pm, 27 Jun 2021 870 posts	0 CK2 Hugs to all needing them today. A lot of stressful stuff going on for people. ((LindsD)) - it sounds as though you need to look after yourself first so you can be there for your mum.
Little Miss Happy Jun 2021 7:03pm, 27 Jun 2021 4,681 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Linds - you can’t look after others if you’re not well yourself, it will take your remaining reserves. Take care. Sorry to hear that MM. Hope 111 sort it USB. Oh dear Big_G - it does sound as though he isn’t acting rationally. A mental capacity assessment can be arranged quickly and may well be followed by Deprivation of Liberty. Difficult times for you. Hope things are improving Baz.
LindsD Jun 2021 7:07pm, 27 Jun 2021 47,978 posts	0 LindsD Thank you to everyone here. I'm so glad I started this thread
Diogenes Jun 2021 7:09pm, 27 Jun 2021 60,900 posts	0 Diogenes (((Linds)))
Lip Gloss Jun 2021 8:23pm, 27 Jun 2021 52,540 posts	0 Lip Gloss Aw big hugs to all who need and remember we are no use to anyone if we don’t look after ourselves first. Sister has travelled down to my dad’s and hopefully she will get into the care home to see him. They have found a place for him up here but not the one we really want but at the moment they won’t take anyone in that is not living within their radius. Hopefully once we get him here they will then take him. I rather think it’s going to be a slow process but one that is finally moving.
LindsD Jun 2021 9:12pm, 27 Jun 2021 47,983 posts	0 LindsD That's good LG
Lip Gloss Jun 2021 9:14pm, 27 Jun 2021 52,545 posts	0 Lip Gloss I think the bigger headache will be trying to clear and sell the house 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️. The distance is such a nuisance
LindsD Jun 2021 9:16pm, 27 Jun 2021 47,984 posts	0 LindsD It really is
Diogenes Jun 2021 9:24pm, 27 Jun 2021 60,909 posts	0 Diogenes I’ve got all that stuff to look forward too shortly

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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