The Retirement Thread

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Hills of Death (HOD)
Hills of Death (HOD)
Nov 2020
1:54pm, 18 Nov 2020
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Hills of Death (HOD)
Money ?
Lip Gloss
Lip Gloss
Nov 2020
1:59pm, 18 Nov 2020
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Lip Gloss
Yeah if I haven't spent it all first :-) . I only have him so he shoul do okay. He now has to share his dad's with 2 half sisters.
Bazoaxe
Bazoaxe
Nov 2020
2:44pm, 18 Nov 2020
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Bazoaxe
My son and his girlfriend moved into a flat two weeks ago and refused all second hand offers and bought everything new.
macca 53
macca 53
Nov 2020
3:31pm, 18 Nov 2020
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macca 53
Both our children took most of the stuff from their bedrooms (most of which they had a say in choosing anyway) - which also helped with our down-sizing exercise!
Bob!
Bob!
Nov 2020
4:04pm, 18 Nov 2020
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Bob!
My son got most of his furniture from local Facebook sales
Mandymoo
Mandymoo
Nov 2020
4:14pm, 18 Nov 2020
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Mandymoo
My daughter likes to upcycle my son and his partner want the best immediately 🙄
Hills of Death (HOD)
Hills of Death (HOD)
Nov 2020
5:00pm, 18 Nov 2020
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Hills of Death (HOD)
So have I Bob lol
Fragile Do Not Bend
Fragile Do Not Bend
Nov 2020
8:37am, 19 Nov 2020
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Fragile Do Not Bend
Can I ask some advice from those have retired, especially those who have retired after working an all-consuming full time job?

My husband has always planned to retire at 60 when he is eligible for his full company pension. He is 60 in March and has just been given, on the face of it, a fantastic option of taking voluntary redundancy - yay, 2 years salary for free.

However, the prospect of retirement is really stressing him out, maybe even scaring him. It’s a big step going from working full time for the same company for 40 years to suddenly stopping working, and he’s worried how he will mentally and emotionally cope. He was originally planning to ease himself in gradually by moving to part time but that now makes no sense from a financial point of view when he’s got the redundancy option. He doesn’t enjoy his job and it stresses him out, but at the moment I think it’s a case of ‘better the devil you know’.

I’m not looking for advice on things he can do, I’ve got loads of ideas and he’s got hobbies, but does anyone have any advice on coping with the mental and emotional side of retiring?
Rosehip
Rosehip
Nov 2020
8:50am, 19 Nov 2020
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Rosehip
Not much use FDNB - that's sort of what I did, 1st time round - but too young (45) and I had youngish kids at home so slid into 50s housewife rather than retired person mentality and ended up wanting to go back to work.
This time around I'm also struggling with needing something to do to find routine, but also complicated by the unusual times we find ourselves in.

With the redundancy compo, there is no need to start the pension right away or make a, which gives time to see how he feels about filling his time and brain without work and time to see whether or not a part-time or voluntary role might suit.

However, the timing at the moment might not be great for finding time-filling activities.
Rosehip
Rosehip
Nov 2020
8:53am, 19 Nov 2020
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Rosehip
THe "I don't know how I found the time to go to work" cliche isn't quite there for me yet - but everyone else I know retired seems to say it.

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