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Dec 2021
4:10pm, 20 Dec 2021
1,364 posts
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JEB
After feeling very spoilt with my pre gift, my main present has arrived today. It's under the tree for the big day. Thank you Santa.
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Dec 2021
6:40pm, 20 Dec 2021
33,204 posts
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Sushi.
I just updated spreadsheet and it all went funny.
Have I broken it?
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Dec 2021
7:10pm, 20 Dec 2021
18,708 posts
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Ness
It looks OK to me Sushi.
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Dec 2021
8:55pm, 20 Dec 2021
33,207 posts
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Sushi.
Phew!
Seems ok for me again too
Did want to be put on the naughty list
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Dec 2021
9:53pm, 20 Dec 2021
16,558 posts
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geordieclaus
Don’t think you’d make the naughty list Sushi.
The spreadsheet looks fab everyone has done so much work.
I am in a dilemma again (not FSS related but it’s Christmas gift related) I have a friend who goes overboard at Christmas & birthdays. I can’t match the value she spends (she has a very small gifting circle compared to mine which is huge) and disposable income is significantly different too. She was much better controlled at my birthday this year but just turned up with Christmas presents for me & the dog - she must spend about £30-40 on the dog 😩 (not opened but I can see she’s bought her the expensive treats & there’s multiple other parcels too.
I have 2 massive bags of gifts - we had a conversation the other week that said is there anything you would like rather but you something you need/want than random gifts. We had a conversation that said doing things together was more important to me than gifts. I hate feeling like I’m on the back foot but I honestly have spent more on her than anyone other than husband & parents.
I know when I’ve mentioned it here before I know I haven’t got to compete but crikey I feel crap.
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Dec 2021
11:09pm, 20 Dec 2021
33,211 posts
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Sushi.
I feel for you GG.
It's one if the things I find so difficult at this time of year.
I know you know you don't have to compete but it can still leave you feeling inadequate if you can't or haven't spent as much.
If your friend is a good one it'll be the thoughtfulness of your gift rather than the cost of it that counts.
A gift that shows someone has really thought about you is always more precious than one that simply was plucked off a shelf. Xx
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Dec 2021
9:16am, 21 Dec 2021
9,175 posts
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BaronessBL
Sushi is absolutely right. I have a similar dilemma. I've got to the stage where I have said to our giver (to the effect) of please don't be so generous with all these gifts it would mean just as much or more even just give each other one small thing that we each really want - but they have chosen to ignore this for a number of years.
Now I give them one small hopefully thoughtful and well chosen gift and if when I open theirs I find a whole load of things I can't use it goes to the foodbank or as a gift to someone else or I sell it on Facebook and give the money raised to a local charity I'm involved with. And I'm going to stop right there because there is so much more I could say but it wouldn't be right on a public forum!
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Dec 2021
9:39am, 21 Dec 2021
16,563 posts
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geordieclaus
A gift that shows someone has really thought about you is always more precious than one that simply was plucked off a shelf. Xx
That is why I love FSS so much.
She is a great truly great friend. She doesn’t buy because of value but she always says my gifts are so thoughtful she can’t do that in the same way. She does buy things she knows I will love just often the expensive version (I love Jo Malone but I treat myself to it - she buys me it I’d be more than happy with a body shop gift). We talked about it before and he said her other friend says the same and that she never wants anyone to feel bad but to accept them as her way of appreciating our friendship - hence why I said let’s go with memories over gifts. We’ll see they might just be physically big rather than big AND expensive.
I feel for you BBL as it sounds similar but maybe not as useful gifts but great that you have found ways to make good of it to help others - it’s just unnecessary isn’t it. It does add to the stress of Christmas and takes away the actual meaning of it. Hugs & thanks both.
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Dec 2021
9:56am, 21 Dec 2021
318 posts
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Spanners99
ditto those sentiments Geordieclaus
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Dec 2021
10:21am, 21 Dec 2021
16,566 posts
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geordieclaus
Thanks I just need to learn to deal with it until I can train her better. ☺️
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