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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Little Miss Happy 8 Feb 12:20pm, 8 Feb 2025 7,870 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy Good idea McG. Sounds positive Dio.
LindsD 8 Feb 2:09pm, 8 Feb 2025 72,544 posts	Quote Pin LindsD That's great, Dio
McGoohan 8 Feb 2:38pm, 8 Feb 2025 55,036 posts	Quote Pin McGoohan That's a result!
Mandymoo 8 Feb 4:21pm, 8 Feb 2025 20,834 posts	Quote Pin Mandymoo We have just come home from a couple of days with dad. Thankfully he seems to be over his virus/COVID etc that he has been suffering with for months. I did notice he was repeating himself quite a bit and he said he sometimes struggles to get his words out, but he is 81 in June and as we left he was arranging a trip to Thailand for him and his friend, along with some other breaks so I think he is doing ok 😀
LindsD 8 Feb 4:44pm, 8 Feb 2025 72,546 posts	Quote Pin LindsD Glad to hear that. Not sure how much of the repeating is age appropriate. Mum has done it for years. She's 82 soon
LindsD 8 Feb 4:45pm, 8 Feb 2025 72,547 posts	Quote Pin LindsD And she won't go anywhere on her own.
LindsD 8 Feb 4:45pm, 8 Feb 2025 72,548 posts	Quote Pin LindsD (Without someone younger...., like me or my sister)
Northern Exile 8 Feb 4:49pm, 8 Feb 2025 10,798 posts	Quote Pin Northern Exile My mum also won't step foot out of the door without dire need and/or an emergency. I was wondering how to achieve this, however it seems that forgetting to order cat food on her weekly Asda order (which we do for her) will do it. She made the long and arduous trip to her local Aldi (400 metres) by herself. My ghast is slightly flabbered ..... so it's the bloody cat that's her week spot? Now I know. I am finding that the hardest thing when dealing with her is an apparent disdain for my efforts and a total lack of thanks. Does anyone else get this?
Northern Exile 8 Feb 4:50pm, 8 Feb 2025 10,799 posts	Quote Pin Northern Exile ** weak
LindsD 8 Feb 5:18pm, 8 Feb 2025 72,549 posts	Quote Pin LindsD Oh yes.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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