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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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leaguefreak
leaguefreak
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Great news
LindsD
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That's good. That's the sort of thing my Mu would be bothered about and it wouldn't occur to me.
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
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That does sound positive Big_G. There will no doubt be lots of issues along the way but it sounds as though he has a good team so between them and you hopefully they will all be sorted.

I am feeling guilty about not spending time with my MiL but she has exhausted my goodwill and I don't think I'm going to be very nice if I see her at the moment so I'm not. :-(
LindsD
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Look after yourself LMH.
Mandymoo
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Sounds good Big-g

LMH yes look after you
CK2
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It’s exhausting all this worrying isn’t it?! Fortunately my dad has made (yet another) good recovery but many on this thread must be knackered! As others have said, sometimes you just need to put yourself first LMH for your and your MiL’s sake. Same for others here - please look after and be kind to yourselves.
Grast_girl
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Grandma has also made a good recovery from her neck surgery. It hasn't necessarily restored any function (still early days and may never improve), but the pain is much reduced.

She's coping well at home with a visit a day to help with cooking lunch. She's walked to the paper shop (about 400 m) with support.

She even gave herself a bath the other day, which mum wasn't too pleased about by all accounts, but she was fine. Still has all her faculties too. I hope she'll live to 96 like her mum.
LindsD
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Incredible Gg
Little Miss Happy
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Thanks guys. I'll crack soon as I'll feel worse for not going to see her.

That is great news G_g.
PaulaMc
PaulaMc
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OH has had to go find his dad who has had an accident in his car. They know roughly where he is but his phone battery has died so they can’t contact him. I understand that he is ok but his car isn’t. He only got it a couple of months ago (had to scrap his old one cos of ULEZ) but I’m not sure he should still be driving to be honest. This might be what stops him. MiL will be on the warpath if he doesn’t.

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Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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