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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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PaulaMc
PaulaMc
Jul 2021
8:48pm, 7 Jul 2021
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Apparently a van hit him and drove away, but that really doesn’t make any sense at all considering the damage. I doubt we’ll get to the bottom of it, he’ll insist his version of events is the true one even if the evidence clearly says otherwise. Nobody was hurt, his falling down is likely stress related.
Bazoaxe
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Jul 2021
8:53pm, 7 Jul 2021
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Oh no Paula, that sounds awful but hopefully is the trigger to stop driving
Lip Gloss
Lip Gloss
Jul 2021
8:54pm, 7 Jul 2021
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Well if says a van hit him and drove off then it is a police matter and then appeal for witnesses. If he is adamant it wasn’t his fault he not likely to give up driving any time soon.
jda
jda
Jul 2021
9:03pm, 7 Jul 2021
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I was thinking if the car is undriveable....there may be various unfortunate hold-ups and delays with the recovery and repair......
PaulaMc
PaulaMc
Jul 2021
9:12pm, 7 Jul 2021
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I’m hoping the same, jda. He’s going to be a nightmare when he has to stop - he goes out every day to the shops just to talk to people - and was like a caged animal when the doctor advised him not to drive for a couple of weeks a few months ago. It’s going to happen soon, it has to, and he lives near us in south London with excellent public transport, so will still be able to get around. There’s the worry about him falling a lot but to my mind if he has health issues which are causing him to fall/pass out/whatever then he shouldn’t be driving either.
Lip Gloss
Lip Gloss
Jul 2021
9:13pm, 7 Jul 2021
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Well yeah that’s true Paula. Any sort of mini blackout could have taken place while driving. Just thankful no one was seriously hurt.
LindsD
LindsD
Jul 2021
11:04pm, 7 Jul 2021
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Hugs to Paula and OH
PaulaMc
PaulaMc
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11:08pm, 7 Jul 2021
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OH got home in time to see the last 3 mins of extra time. It’s been a very stressful evening all round but everyone is home safe now and we’ll have to deal with all the fallout in the next week or so.
Little Miss Happy
Little Miss Happy
Jul 2021
6:38am, 8 Jul 2021
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Sorry to read this Paula. I hope that he will see sense about driving but if not have you considered contacting the DVLA and expressing your concerns?
decorum
decorum
Jul 2021
6:39pm, 8 Jul 2021
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Hugs to all, be kind to yourselves.

About This Thread

Maintained by LindsD
I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk
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