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Giving up sex?

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runner duck Feb 2013 2:00pm, 28 Feb 2013 10,302 posts	Quote Pin runner duck rofl!!
Caterpillar Feb 2013 2:01pm, 28 Feb 2013 7,553 posts	Quote Pin Caterpillar Hold on - two different answers from the females here. "Cutting off your nose to spite your face" and "if i'm angry I am not going to feel frisky." Am I permitted to remain confused? Said husband probably thought - she decided to dig out the compost heap while the rugby was on. What the f**k has that got to do with denying me and herself some fun in bed?
Caterpillar Feb 2013 2:03pm, 28 Feb 2013 7,554 posts	Quote Pin Caterpillar I'd be delighted with that Pootle. Beggars can't be choosers.
fleecy Feb 2013 2:04pm, 28 Feb 2013 7,423 posts	Quote Pin fleecy I have a newsflash for Caterpillar: many women enjoy sex. But they're probably not in the mood for it if they're pissed off with their OH. Doesn't seem too complex to me.
Caterpillar Feb 2013 2:05pm, 28 Feb 2013 7,555 posts	Quote Pin Caterpillar Oh fair enough. Mrs Caterpillar is permanently pissed off then. Why?
runner duck Feb 2013 2:05pm, 28 Feb 2013 10,303 posts	Quote Pin runner duck no, it's perfectly simple!! 1. If i'm in a bad mood for whatever reason then i am highly unlikely to want sex. not as a punishment or to be mean to my oh, but because for me i don't feel horny when i'm angry/upset. 2. deliberately choosing to withold sex because of a perceived wrong from my oh would be cutting off my nose to spite my face if i wasn't actually annoyed about it anymore i was just doing it as a punishment. we also have to factor in the fact that doing or not doing of chores is not going to make me particularly angry or upset. does that make sense now?
emdee Feb 2013 2:05pm, 28 Feb 2013 2,271 posts	Quote Pin emdee Just thought I'd pop in with this: this thread is moving way too quickly for me to be able to contribute in any meaningful fashion. It's a great debate though. You're all right, to a greater or lesser degree.
Frobester Feb 2013 2:06pm, 28 Feb 2013 21,946 posts	Quote Pin Frobester My two pennorth' worth - I think we can substitute "sex" for pretty much any joint activity that either partner may not be too interested in if the other partner's perceived not to have pulled their weight around the house/in the relationship generally. I guess it's because sex (for some) has such import that it's perceived as a bigger slight if it's denied/withheld.
runner duck Feb 2013 2:06pm, 28 Feb 2013 10,304 posts	Quote Pin runner duck i thought it wasn't mrs caterpillar?!
Stander Feb 2013 2:06pm, 28 Feb 2013 12,393 posts	Quote Pin Stander Because she just a grumpy old cow?