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Nov 2013
9:20pm, 13 Nov 2013
8,070 posts
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Derby Tup
It's not good for the kids. I've been there (as a kid I mean). 35 years later I still hate the sound of slammed doors
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Nov 2013
9:22pm, 13 Nov 2013
8,552 posts
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Oysterboy
Agree not good for the kids. But at least the no sex thing makes sense to me now. It didn't before.
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Nov 2013
9:28pm, 13 Nov 2013
9,530 posts
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McGoohan
Actually we do know of another couple who - when their kids were quite young (5ish) - decided to split then found out they couldn't afford to: their mortgage was too high and their house too expensive for anyone else to want. They ended up dividing the house in two and staying together, separated. Hideous for their children. Each one found a new partner while they were still 'living together' and I don't know how that worked!
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Nov 2013
9:31pm, 13 Nov 2013
8,072 posts
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Derby Tup
A friend of mine left his wife (their relationship had run it's time years before) and set up home with a woman he'd had a yen for for years. One day he was driving through a local village and saw a very attractive looking woman leaving the haridressers with great looking hair. As he drove past he saw the woman in his rear-view and recognised her as his ex-wife 
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Nov 2013
9:34pm, 13 Nov 2013
6,170 posts
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Bazoaxe
I was stood at the printer today and it said it was warming up, then a queue formed behind me as I waited. The printer then said it was logging out without having produced any output. Sounds like my ex wife said the guy behind me before walking off.
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Nov 2013
9:34pm, 13 Nov 2013
8,073 posts
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Derby Tup
The sad part of my story is my friend used to snore (I once shared a caravan with him and told him the next day I thought a group of wild animals had got in the van and were smashimg up the furniture in the night) and his wife kicked him in bed when he snored. The story upset me at the time as an example of a couple who's relationship had really broken down
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Nov 2013
9:39pm, 13 Nov 2013
3,214 posts
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Wobbling
My mum left the week after my 19 birthday. She made no secret that she stayed in the martial home until the kids were grown up (although my bro was only 16, that's another tale) and I know she was thoroughly miserable for almost 10. And sometimes I do feel a bit guilty about that.
Then I remember other incidents from my childhood and feel less guilty. Philip Larkin had it right.
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Nov 2013
9:41pm, 13 Nov 2013
12,732 posts
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F is for Fleecy
My best friend at primary school had parents who decided to stay together for the sake of the kids and split up when the youngest was 18. They actually told their kids this when they were about 12!
Then the youngest turned 18 and the parents decided they were actually madly in love and after almost a decade of living together apart and leading separate lives they went round snogging each other the whole time.
They were fucking nutso, that couple. I bet they're not married now. But their kids are properly fucked up.
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Nov 2013
9:41pm, 13 Nov 2013
9,532 posts
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McGoohan
larkin's poem:
This Be The Verse
By Philip Larkin 1922–1985 Philip Larkin
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do.
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.
But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.
Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can,
And don’t have any kids yourself.
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Nov 2013
9:41pm, 13 Nov 2013
8,075 posts
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Derby Tup
My mum continued to live with my dad in spite of him living a virtual double life for several years (he went on holiday with his 'mistress' and basically wanted to be with her instead of mum, me and my twin brother). We left when we were 11 and my mum told my twin last year that those years were the worst of her life
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