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May 2013
6:55pm, 7 May 2013
12,179 posts
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Discovery Dave
He does struggle a bit with what's appropriate socially. OK, a LOT. He doesn't seem to pick up interpersonal signals. Also, he's an extreme perfectionist - and can react really disproportionately if things are not as he would like.
Those are the main things which line up. The rest doesn't.
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May 2013
7:05pm, 7 May 2013
2,432 posts
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Tracey G
Discovery Dave - My 13 year old son is autistic. He goes to a special scho
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May 2013
7:07pm, 7 May 2013
2,433 posts
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Tracey G
Discovery Dave - My 13 year old son is autistic. He goes to a special school. It took a long time to get him diagnosed. Feel feel to message me.
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May 2013
7:23pm, 7 May 2013
335 posts
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old mum
My son was labelled as autistic when he was 5-7yo. He's now a well adjusted 19yo with a perfect (seriously) girlfriend and a large group of equally nerdy mates. I'm very glad I didn't fall in with the 'label that child' mentality.
Bear in mind what's gone on over the past couple of years. Sometimes they're not autistic, sometimes they just need time to find their way in the world through all the shit life throws at them.
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May 2013
7:28pm, 7 May 2013
12,180 posts
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Discovery Dave
OM > that's sort of the other point of view I'm holding in balance with the "get any help going" one. And it's well put. Thanks.
(Question: did your son have an official autistic diagnosis at the time?)
Thanks, Tracy. I'll bear that in mind.
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May 2013
7:38pm, 7 May 2013
336 posts
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old mum
No he didn't, because I refused to accept that he was anything other than an individual, and a tad wild. Don't get me wrong, I accept autism diagnoses where they're relevant, and I have had experience with autistic children, I just feel that sometimes people (parents & professionals) are a little too quick to leap in with a knee jerk reaction to something that isn't regarded (by them) as the norm.
Obviously he's your lad and you know him best, I just hope you can all find a way through it.
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May 2013
7:44pm, 7 May 2013
2,913 posts
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Pestomum
I found the whole "sending children to school" thing put a serious caveat on the "we know our kids best" thing: every single parents' evening was a revelation.
Keep the focus on Him, not on the perceived failings of either of his parents and you'll do the best you can by him.
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May 2013
7:44pm, 7 May 2013
2,914 posts
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Pestomum
Oops. I accidentally came across all evangelical like. I meant "him" not "Him". 
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May 2013
7:44pm, 7 May 2013
2,915 posts
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Pestomum
Although...
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May 2013
7:50pm, 7 May 2013
17,763 posts
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Johnny Blaze
Nothing to add, as my lad is probably s slam dunk, diagnosis-wise. It's hard to come to terms with, but somehow you do. Good luck - things rarely turn out as bad as you fear.
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