Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Mazlin 10 Jan 1:58pm, 10 Jan 2024 12,186 posts	0 Mazlin From my perspective (which I understand may differ from that of the general public…) they generally are really good. We spend quite a lot of time discussing what might be feasible/ in the best interests of particular patients, so don’t be afraid to say ‘no, actually mil will not cope with that, whatever she might be telling you’.
Little Miss Happy 10 Jan 4:31pm, 10 Jan 2024 6,841 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Small steps McG.
CK2 10 Jan 8:40pm, 10 Jan 2024 2,547 posts	0 CK2 Better news than expected McG. I hope this enables her to accept the care. Dips - that sounds dreadful - thinking of you at this painful time.
LindsD 11 Jan 11:55am, 11 Jan 2024 66,050 posts	0 LindsD Why oh why oh why can't I be more patient with my Mum? [No answers required, just wanted to vent]
Little Miss Happy 11 Jan 3:23pm, 11 Jan 2024 6,842 posts	0 Little Miss Happy Because you've been worn down by years of trying Linds.
Mandymoo 11 Jan 4:57pm, 11 Jan 2024 18,127 posts	0 Mandymoo Exactly that ⬆️
LindsD 11 Jan 8:13pm, 11 Jan 2024 66,057 posts	0 LindsD Thank you. Also because she's getting more and more frustrating as her smoother bits get knocked off through age and mental decline. And because, in a sad twist of fate, I'm trying to work through the damage she and my dad did to me as a child too late to be able to address it with her, so that knowledge, and the effect it's having on my current mh is never far from my mind when dealing w her. I need to make like Elsa and Let it Go.
Little Miss Happy 12 Jan 6:27am, 12 Jan 2024 6,844 posts	0 Little Miss Happy If only it were that easy Linds.
LindsD 12 Jan 7:09am, 12 Jan 2024 66,067 posts	0 LindsD Indeed. Thank you
TeeBee 12 Jan 7:56am, 12 Jan 2024 10,183 posts	0 TeeBee Hugs to everyone, esp Dipps, Linds and McG.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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