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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Mandymoo Feb 2021 8:34am, 17 Feb 2021 11,158 posts	Quote Pin Mandymoo XB that sounds a much better situation all round x
Little Miss Happy Feb 2021 9:14am, 17 Feb 2021 4,289 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy Comfortable is good XB.
Bazoaxe Feb 2021 10:13am, 17 Feb 2021 18,972 posts	Quote Pin Bazoaxe D2 that does sound upsetting. I have found that my MiLs thinking and actions have become much less rational with age and some of the things she says and does now would have appalled her younger self.
MarkyMarkMark (3M) Feb 2021 3:38pm, 17 Feb 2021 14,402 posts	Quote Pin MarkyMarkMark (3M) My elderlies have become more reactionary, (more) racist and less diplomatic as they've aged in the last 5 years. It makes for interesting conversations....
XB Feb 2021 5:35pm, 27 Feb 2021 11,555 posts	Quote Pin XB Mum is bed bound and just about hanging in there. She eats very little but is still able to take in a cup of tea. She spends most of the day asleep. Yesterday she asked my sister to finish her off. She's had enough. She wants to take some poison and go. I can see her point. She's only going to get worse, there's not much for her to live for, and there's not much dignity in her situation.
LindsD Feb 2021 5:55pm, 27 Feb 2021 45,335 posts	Quote Pin LindsD I'm sorry. It's awful and you wouldn't do it to an animal (())
Rosehip Feb 2021 5:57pm, 27 Feb 2021 19,853 posts	Quote Pin Rosehip ((())) XB, dad was like that for a while, it's heartbreaking to hear it.
jabberknit Feb 2021 5:57pm, 27 Feb 2021 3,877 posts	Quote Pin jabberknit That's a sad state of affairs, XB, sorry you're having to cope with this.
Lip Gloss Feb 2021 5:58pm, 27 Feb 2021 49,327 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss It’s so heartbreaking and you’re right we would treat animals with more dignity. Hang in there x
McGoohan Feb 2021 6:00pm, 27 Feb 2021 48,753 posts	Quote Pin McGoohan This must be one of the hardest things for someone to witness. I recognise that stage from my dad, XB. He didn't last long after that, but spent more and more time asleep so it was eventually more of a slipping away and less traumatic for him. I hope that happens for your mum.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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