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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Little Miss Happy Jan 2021 6:48am, 31 Jan 2021 4,245 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy Reassuring Poppy.
XB Jan 2021 4:24pm, 31 Jan 2021 11,303 posts	Quote Pin XB Popping in for a quick cry and an offload. Things going wrong in the toilet department and I’m srtruggling to cope. And she’s embarrassed. Fucking awful situation.
Lip Gloss Jan 2021 4:26pm, 31 Jan 2021 48,443 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss Oh XB sorry to hear this. You have been doing so well and been so strong. Can’t be an easy thing for a son to see his mother go through.
Rosehip Jan 2021 4:29pm, 31 Jan 2021 19,520 posts	Quote Pin Rosehip ((())) XB . Have a shout and a rant and a cry
poppyH Jan 2021 4:39pm, 31 Jan 2021 1,225 posts	Quote Pin poppyH Oh XB that is the to deal with for both of you. (())
poppyH Jan 2021 4:39pm, 31 Jan 2021 1,226 posts	Quote Pin poppyH *tough not the
DeaJay Jan 2021 4:48pm, 31 Jan 2021 73 posts	Quote Pin DeaJay That's awful XB! So difficult for you both. Keep offloading on here whenever you feel like it. (())
Mandymoo Jan 2021 4:53pm, 31 Jan 2021 11,051 posts	Quote Pin Mandymoo So so hard XB xxx
jabberknit Jan 2021 5:31pm, 31 Jan 2021 3,854 posts	Quote Pin jabberknit Oh dear, XB, sympathise with you on this. A digestive incident was one of the things that convinced Mum to move into the care home.
beebop Jan 2021 6:20pm, 31 Jan 2021 1,780 posts	Quote Pin beebop I’ve been lurking here since my dad has some health problems Christmas before last. I just wanted to say thank you for all the useful bits of information I’ve picked up along the way, especially grast_girl’s tip about the ‘what to do when someone dies’ link. My father had a massive stroke towards the end of last week and died the next day - I would have had no clue where to begin with the death admin without this thread, which has also given me some ideas for supporting ma, who was in a very worrying state for a couple of days - still is, not surprisingly, but not as bad as she was. Didn’t expect this to happen, as he was mostly very healthy. Anyway, just wanted to say thanks to all.

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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