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Elderly parents or relatives to care for and/or worry about? This is the place for you.

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Little Miss Happy Feb 2021 8:49am, 15 Feb 2021 4,281 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy I'm sorry to hear that your sister took her frustrations out on your mum XB. I'm sure she regrets it. I hope that the external help takes some of the pressure off.
XB Feb 2021 10:11am, 15 Feb 2021 11,440 posts	Quote Pin XB Fortunately me and little sister are coping with it much better and big grumpy sister isn’t here as much.
D2 Feb 2021 12:56pm, 16 Feb 2021 12,068 posts	Quote Pin D2 Some of you may know that my mother died from Covid in her care home a couple of weeks ago. I have now been able to recover some of her belongings and in particular the much treasured and very old family photo album. I had chance this morning to have a look at it and I'm traumatised to find that she has decided to rewrite history. The whole album has been striped and re-ordered to show I suppose what she wanted it to portray of her life. No sign of the photos that she had taken out..... most of my childhood memories gone. I cant tell you how upset I am.
LazyDaisy Feb 2021 12:57pm, 16 Feb 2021 32,572 posts	Quote Pin LazyDaisy Oh D that is desperately sad for you! That must have come as such a shock. I'm so sorry.
Mandymoo Feb 2021 1:08pm, 16 Feb 2021 11,153 posts	Quote Pin Mandymoo Oh D that be be so very upsetting.
RunningRonnie Feb 2021 1:09pm, 16 Feb 2021 1,965 posts	Quote Pin RunningRonnie Hi all, just wanted to pop in and say thank you for all the support in here 1.5 years ago before my Dad died.
Lip Gloss Feb 2021 1:14pm, 16 Feb 2021 48,928 posts	Quote Pin Lip Gloss Aw D2 that is so heartbreaking RR it’s really a lovel thread and so glad you got comfort
Little Miss Happy Feb 2021 1:22pm, 16 Feb 2021 4,283 posts	Quote Pin Little Miss Happy That must be so distressing D2. It's a good thread RR.
LindsD Feb 2021 1:24pm, 16 Feb 2021 45,030 posts	Quote Pin LindsD Oh D2 (()) Glad it was helpful, RR
Rosehip Feb 2021 1:38pm, 16 Feb 2021 19,709 posts	Quote Pin Rosehip Oh, D2 I can imagine just what a shock that was. So upsetting ((()))

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I thought I'd start a thread, as lots of us have elderly folks that we worry about/care for.

Useful info for after someone dies here (with thanks to grast_girl)
moneysavingexpert.com

Other useful links

myageingparent.com

moneysavingexpert.com

Who pays for residential care? Information here:

ageuk.org.uk

Advice on care homes and payment/funding

theguardian.com

Also: After someone dies, if their home insurance was only in their name, sadly the cover becomes void. But if the policy was in joint names, it will still cover the surviving policyholder (though the names on the policy will need to be updated).

A useful book of exercises for memory loss and dementia
amazon.co.uk

Pension Credit. The rules are a bit complex but if your elderly relative has some sort of disability (in this case dementia/Alzheimer's) and go into a home, they may be able to claim pension credit. So if carers allowance stops, it seems pension credit can start. It can also be backdated.

Fall alarm company, etc.

careium.co.uk

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